AVD = Anti-Valentine’s Day.
(here comes a rant…)
I really was not going to post anything about a holiday today that generally is about false hopes and weight gain. Why should most folk express their love more so on one day a year with cheesy cards and expensive chocolates? Recession my ass, people look for reasons to spend, I’m sorry, WASTE, money and Valentine’s Day is one of them.
I am not against love. I am in love. I am married and love my wife to death. I love my friends and my family and even my spoiled rotten dogs. I am so lucky to be in love.
I hate days where people try to be one step better then they already are and V-Day is one of them. I don’t know about you but I try every day to be a better person to my wife. I don’t use balloons and stuffed teddy bear bribes on Feb. 14th to show my wife how much I love her. In fact, I am working all day today and will not be seeing her until tomorrow.
I should put my foot in my mouth right at this moment though because I did buy my wife a massage yesterday but it was not for V-Day at all. I took her to the massage place on Friday The 13th… It was for her because I felt it was time to buy her another one. She was stressed with school and needed a healthy dose of relax. I do things like this because I love her. It just so happened to be the day before V-Day….honest.
I did not buy her candy or flowers. No cards or cute little knick knacks were left on the counter for her when she woke up this morning. I did not dress up like cupid and shoot arrows at her either. (That would be a scary sight!!!)
I just do what I do all the time, love her.
I hate the idea of a holiday that makes love seem that much important one day out of the year. Then again if it can make someone who generally is not that nice one bit nicer to the person they claim to love… Damn, I feel sorry for them.
So why am I ranting anyways?
Well Matt over at AddictedToVinyl.com posted his first ever Valentine’s Day blog. He thanks me along with a few others for “connecting” with him and keeping him sane while he enjoys solo (relationship-free) time off.
While reading his blog I started thinking about another reason why I hate V-Day. It was a reason I have forgotten about long ago. It just clicked in my head and the second I thought of it I laughed.
Well of course I am going to share it with you…did you even have to think of asking???
When I was in second grade I got in trouble on Valentine’s Day. In the tradition of putting Valentine’s Day cards in specially designed shoe boxes full of hearts and the colors red & pink I dropped a rather inappropriate card into one classmate’s box.
It read: “You Are Ugly”
I meant it too. I thought the girl was ugly as hell and I guess Valentine’s Day was my confession day to her.
Of course my bold statement made her cry out loud and run to my teacher. Immediately I was repromanded for my actions seeing how I signed my name on the card and I was promptly taken to the corner of the classroom where I was forced to think alone about what I just did as well as write an apology letter to said ugly girl. I did what I was told and pretty much filled the paper with lies and other false hope.
I admit…that was a crappy thing to do. I do not remember if I did it as a dare to impress friends or if I was just being an a-hole at a very young age. I am not even sure my teacher shared my actions with my parents. I just knew I got yelled at for telling someone how I really felt and I hated the holiday for getting in trouble for it. I never favored the day since…
AVD = Anti-Valentine’s Day. That is where I stand. Maybe because I know what love really is an cherish it, or maybe because I have just been an a-hole all my life since that once forgotten day in second grade.
Love on the other hand is a wonderful thing. It may not be for everyone, but for those who crave it and those who experience it…you know what I mean.
Here’s two videos that help define the love between my wife and I… Nothing too mushy I promise: